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Elder Care Decision for my mother

reacea529 — Tue, 01 Jul 2008 09:23:23 GMT

My mother is 85 with Parkinson's Disease. My sister is No.1 health care proxy and does not talk to me. As my mother fell and was taken to a hospital with no breaks she was put in a rehab. My mother didn't want to go but decided to sign herself in to get stronger as my sister talked her into it. I know Medicare only pays for so long and now she is worse off than when she went in mentally. SHe hates it and wants out. She has been put on anti-anxiety pills that are making her confused and disoriented and is having hallucinations. I want her out and home with 24/7 which she could afford up to 6 months only. What happens when she runs out of money. My sister wants her to be incompetent so that she could put her in a Nursing Home and she could take over her house.

The house is secured in a Trust/ split between the three daughters.

What could I do to help my mother. I can get her 24/7 but it will wash her out financially. What happens when that happens.

Please help me,

Maria

Senior Care Advocates

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Social Security, Nursing Home, Leftover Bills

glojon — Wed, 23 Jul 2008 22:09:05 GMT

My 86 year-old mother-in-law recently moved from a private nursing home into a county one and is Medicaid-pending. She owes quite a bit to the private nursing home, Medicare only paid for 90 days and she was there almost 6 months. She could not pay them very much during her stay because her SS check was used to pay down some of her many medical bills and rent, although they did get a little of it. How will this private nursing home get paid once her Medicaid application is approved and she is in the county home with no control over her monthly checks? How will her leftover bills be paid? She has no private assets, just a small subsidized rental apartment and was dirt-poor, lived on her social security check and whatever we could do to help her out. She owes thousands in bills (esp. the nursing home) and it is too much for us to take on.

Thanks for any help.